I know what you are going through, and I went through it too.
The irony is, I was one of the first to get on, and I ended up leaving my alliance (again, lol) to move to a different state in spite.
Now I turn out to be among the first in my new alliance to log in and establish myself. Now I have it to where they are clustered around me. If I experience a browser crash for three hours, I know it will hurt, but the world won't end.
You will still have those ports (if you're on a SS) and your mates will still be there.
Just be patient. Evony can only do so much at a time, and your wait will be rewarded.

