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I promise to lend a sympathetic ear and dispense wonderful advice for all your relationship problems.
Why doesn't the girl I like understand me :dizzy: she never gets what I mean. And I am so good at explaining stuff :( /sarcasm
What if a guy punches you in the cheek but apologizes? Give him another chance?
oh my..
how do i get my bf to fall asleep so he wont nag bout my "online-life"?
He seriously envies pixels.:rofl:
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Originally Posted by SickbyDefinition
I wouldn't. It takes two people to establish an abusive relationship cycle, the person doing the beating, and the person doing the forgiving and taking back. Anyone who lays hands on their partner once is going to do it again unless they get the help they need. I would not give that person another chance because they need to know that their behavior crossed a boundary that is non-negotiable. That person needs professional help, not arbitrary forgiveness.
So mah gal pal and me were having some relationship probs. I was all like, I think we shud see other peeps. But she was like Omg no I love you soooo much. I was alright fine, but I said we should be able to sleep around until we solved this problem, and she was like alright.
So a week passes, and 8 people tell me that she slept with with, mah mind was blown. She even hooked up with mah arch nemesis, Ghost101. I was like woah hold on brah. How could you do this. And she was like, I thought it was alright to sleep around.
But it was actually a test from the beginning, ya see? To see if she was faithful
The question is, should I take her back? And if I do, should she be tested for STDs and/or pregnancy?
Hey! I'm pretty sure at least 3 of those people were just Knuckles wearing different masks!Quote:
Originally Posted by Revoltion
Ninja text noted ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Ghost101
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Communication is surprisingly difficult under normal circumstances, and when you add extra filters such as, for example, "liking" someone, the chance for mutually understandable interaction goes down. Liking someone normally results in you placing stresses on your communication style which you wouldn't normally have, for example, perhaps you are trying to be wittier, or funnier, or more charming, but the strain tells and results in a more confusing interaction. This is why people recommend "just be yourself."
The fact that you have to explain shows you are working too hard. It is paradoxical, but when we like someone but are too afraid to say it directly, we try to hint at it by exaggerating other aspects of our communication - resulting in a less clear message. If you can do this successfully, it's called flirting. Most people can't pull it off. The solution to this Gordian Knot is of course to cut it. Just tell her you like her straight up, without all the flirting and try-hardisms - "just be yourself" :D
The empire of Rome is my only mistress.
Rome can't provide you with little Conrad's now can it? ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Conrad_Jalowski
should i talk to a girl with a all-star Quarter back as her brother?
Not stepping on Bole's toes, but I wanted to comment on this one: I had a guy slap me once. I punched him in the face and broke up with him on the spot. Not. Cool. And the same goes for guys - I know that sounds silly, but it works both ways. Abuse is abuse. Think about this (at least this is what I do) Take every negative aspect of your partner, and multiply it by ten. This could very possibly be how they are the rest of your life. If that's not cool, move on. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by SickbyDefinition
Bole - Odd question. From a guy's perspective, your car is YOUR car, and you don't like sharing, right? I'm having a hard time actually believing the hubby to be likes me taking his car. We've talked about it, and he says he wants me to because it makes it easier for him, but then he gets excited when he gets to drive almost like he hasn't driven in years (I'll do the grocery shopping cause he hates to, or take him around as DD, etc. I try to be sparing because... Well... it's his car). I'm worried that I'm taking his baby and logically he knows it's okay, but "emotionally" he feels differently so he thinks it's not worth getting into a discussion about. We are buying me a car after the wedding cause we can't afford two right now. He thinks although it's his car because I pay for it, it's cool (we split the bills on everything). Is this just me being overly sensitive and looking further into a non-issue then I have to? The last thing I want is to have him longing for something that's his, and me being to blame.
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Originally Posted by The Luda
Saying that he envies pixels is another way of saying he wants to spend as much time as possible with you. It's up to you to determine your personal comfort level to decide where the line is between "affection" and "obsession." I don't have enough information to know whether or not his request is endearing and heartfelt or obsessional and jealous.
At the core of most good relationships are a series of understandings. I'd suggest that most partners ought to accommodate the quirks and demands of their loved one, with the understanding that their quirks get reciprocated in turn (are you doing this?). However sharing experiences is also important, so why not try to get him immersed in your world?
My right hand is cheating on me.
with who your left hand? i'd watch out if i were you.Quote:
Originally Posted by BigBlugga
LOL. "It was THIS big!"Quote:
Originally Posted by Boleslav
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Originally Posted by DoubleM
Yes! She exists independently from her brother, and he shouldn't factor into your decision at all.
okay thank you Dr. Phillgood and with a that plays for that team hmmm no comment.Quote:
Originally Posted by Boleslav
Bole did you ignore AA's question? lol
Yep. I was going to wait until like ten pages in to mention it ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Lord Arumen
Hmm. I drive my wife's car, so I am not sure I am totally qualified to answer this question as a generic male (I don't especially care very much about cars). That said, when we are together in the car, she is the one who wants to drive. That's cool with me because it's her car, and because she is by far the safer driver.Quote:
Originally Posted by AbstractAngel
is it possible the car is a surrogate for other concerns given you are about to get married? That both of you are communicating your feelings to each other using the car as a prism? Viewed that way, your position is "I want to support you but I want you to recognize my independence too" and his position is "I want to show you we can split things and share things." These positions are compatible, so I don't see a problem here. Once you get married a whole bunch of mutual owning is going to happen, mortgages, insurance, children, gardening, etc. Might as well use the car as a low risk way to start talking about level of sharing you feel comfortable with.
... and congratulations. ;)
How do you remind a woman you love her, when you can't...
... contact her in any way.
... ask anyone else to contact her.
... contact anyone she might ever meet.
... be anywhere she might ever go.
Basically, you promised to give her a "world where you don't exist." And the only way to prove your love is to keep that promise, no matter how much it destroys your life. You have never lied to her, or broken a promise to her, and you're not going to start now. Moving on to other relationships is not an option, since it's true love... and you've kept every promise of devotion to her, which you are not about to break. Your exile is your penance, and she's the only one that can end it. She's the only one that can declare it "paid" and set you free. How do you get her to initiate contact (since you're not allowed to go to her) and just talk to you?
edit: It's been about 5 years since the promise was made. Not a day has gone by when breaking that promise is even a consideration. It has been about 5 years of not going out, not having friends, not having a life. 5 years of exile.
i was going to tell my girlfriend that i loved her, but i realized i didnt have one,
whats up ladies ;)
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Originally Posted by Rota
I don't even know how Bole is going to be able to answer this because this is one of the moat heartfelt posts I have ever seen.... I would attempt an answer but I know nothing I could ever write would come close to expressing enough feeling.
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Originally Posted by VuLMz
jeez this isn't zoosk or msn.
the show desperate house wives was named after you wasn't it?
So, like, why are only the married men flirting with me????? I want someone with real potential :(
How do you get your girlfriend to remember to charge her phone? It's almost always off, so I sometimes can't reach her for an entire weekend...
Bole, I'd like you to list the top 10 advantages of being single, and the top 10 ways of losing that status.
There are seriously some days when I get lonely, even when I'm in a sea of friends.
I wana know, why does the world assume that if you dont have a gf or if you are not in a relationship you are either gay or a monk?
My girlfriend likes Twilight, Justin Bieber, the Jonas Brothers, and a whole other similar load of crap that I detest with every fibre of my being.
Should I break up with her, or just leave thousands of notes everywhere saying why those things suck?
Here's a little funny story.Quote:
Originally Posted by Derick
I'm profoundly deaf, as you all know by now. I became deaf at three years old, got a cochlear implant to help me hear when i was 4. I am now 17 years old.
Throughout my entire elementary school life, I had no friends, children were shallow back then, didn't want to associate with the weird kid. Middle school was the same way.
When i got to high school, I finally got some friends. I became friends with a lot of people and close friends with a smaller smarter group, nerds as you would call them.
But the girls all remember how they didn't want to talk with me in elementary and middle school, so all of them consider me just a friend, someone to talk with intellectually, to work with in groups, etc etc.
How do I explain to my parents and siblings that I don't have a girlfriend and probably never going to have a relationship with a girl in high school? Heck, all my life I thought I wasn't handsome enough for people to like, not smart enough, too funny to be taken seriously.
That doesn't mean I'm homosexual, asexual or narcissistic. I like girls, and I like one particular girl.
So I am in the same boat as you, problem is that i want a relationship, but never know if I am handsome enough to be attractive or if I am clever enough. I am not in one simply because of how people used to act and that no one ever showed interest in me.
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Originally Posted by Ghost101
I'm not saying this in a homosexual way, but there are guys out there that would kill for your looks. I'm not giving you a swelled head or anything, just that there are a lot uglier guys out there. If you were to believe Rota's equation, looks don't bear as much significance as the other factors. So head up and don't let your looks bother you! As far as how clever you are, I think we all know the answer to that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ghost101
What do you do when you seriously like a friend, but you're not sure if he feels the same way?
Does he spend time with you? YesQuote:
Originally Posted by Arathorn136
Is he in a relationship? No
Does he talk with you about other girls he is totally in love with? No
If these are the answers you get when you ask yourself those questions, then he likes you.
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Originally Posted by Rota
Does him telling twelve year olds he loves them randomly at school count? Like, several of them a day?
No.Quote:
Originally Posted by Arathorn136
I mean actually talking to you privately about a girl he swoons over.
What you're describing sounds like harmless flirting, not serious intent to woo.
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Originally Posted by Rota
I was just joking. I mean, I'm not that stupid to think he was serious. IMO, I wouldn't even call it flirting. He walks up to them, says " excuse me, I think I love you," then walks away.
Thanks though Rota. ;)
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Originally Posted by Rota
Married men have potential! is it possible that you seem unattainable somehow in person so that unmarried men, who may like you but have something to lose therefore by trying to flirt and failing, feel they can't take the risk and instead admire you from afar, while married men are more secure and have little to lose by flirting and failing?Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady Beorn
As I said earlier, most people can't flirt. In most cases it degrades the message instead of reinforcing it. I'd also say that sometimes people flirt and their target completely fails to notice. That could be happening too.
If your girlfriend is spending multi-days away from you on a regular basis, it's really important to have a serious talk about how you are going to communicate during that period. Try to set up a regular time and a procedure. Procedures help people remember to do tasks. Also talk about back-up options, so that if her phone is dead, maybe she can email instead.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bree Fletcher
Set a purpose for the communication too. You want her to touch base so you can tell her how much you miss her. Make sure she understands it's not a gotcha, and it's not a trust issue. It's just that you love her and want her contact.
You have blocked PM's so I can't reply to you. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Boleslav