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12-30-2009, 03:56 AM
Godg

Family troubles

Hey i havnt really been feeling myself due to some family issue i've been having, what is the best way to relax?? 14 years of hearing them argue isnt as much joy i could hope for. hope you guys can help out!

thanks

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well guys im 17 year old almost turning 18 in feb, im happy there actually leaving one another and therefore im llucky im a calm thinker or i would had been dead a long time ago
my dad is those old" chinese dads always thinking about how manly they are and whatever he does or say is right, my mother has passed away when i was 12 and i've never been by her side throughout those 12 years that i regret, the thing is my dad's close to 50 and he just had another kid with a woman in china... my sis hates him and i being the calm guy is having issue not knowing what to do, it's life in a way
12-30-2009, 05:54 AM
Snott

D I V O R C E

it helped me to escape the stress and allowed me to continue my love affair with Evony

i will admit that it cost me more than the usual $30 in the courts tho :mad:
12-30-2009, 01:27 PM
Pieman

14 years of hearing them argue?

Does that mean your 14... because im pretty sure u weren't listening to your parents argue when you were 0-4 years old, or didn't care

So that would mean you were about 18? In which my solution is, GET OUTTA THERE!!

MY OTHER SOLUTION:

Or if u really are 14, take a spray bottle and every time they start to argue, spray them.
Works on my cat every time.
12-30-2009, 01:30 PM
Erotika

Either way, I am sorry for your situation. Have you confronted your parents? Let them know how much it hurts you to hear them fighting all the time.

If all else fails start ordering free emotional abuse / family love / etc books from online to be delivered to the house to both of them.

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Also try:
http://www.aamft.org/resources/Product_Events/FTMPage/FTM_Online.asp
http://www.livestrong.com/article/3196-facts-family-therapy/?utm_source=yahoo&utm_medium=ssp&utm_campaign=yssp _Articles
12-30-2009, 01:38 PM
Rodri

It just sounds like my family Christmas get togethers:
Stuck in a house with a group of people you spend all year trying to avoid, with too much alcohol and nothing worth watching on tv.
12-30-2009, 01:39 PM
FoxyBunny

I sent you a pm. :) Hang in there! It doesn't last forever, no matter how much it feels like it could.
12-30-2009, 01:40 PM
Erotika

Did you watch Four Christmases?
Yeah I am never going home for Xmas again!

*Sigh*
12-30-2009, 01:51 PM
Pieman

You people do it the hard way
All it takes is some disciplining your parents

1. Make sure they understand you are in charge here, don't let them get away with anything. When they are acting wrong, simply give them a small spray with a spray bottle to tell them they are doing something wrong.

2. Parents must learn how to share. Try teaching them not to hog the bed when sleeping with you. They must adjust to your position, not the other way around.

3. Table Manners. An extremely important greatly in need of sturdy rules and structure to discourage bad parent behavior behavior. Parents must learn they have their own food and water dishes separate from your dishes.

4. Parents are extremely social loving animals, which is exactly what people love so much about their parents. Make sure they get some time outside, and time to be with other Parents.

5. No Horse Play. Super charged hyper-active parents often require a quick refresher that the stairway is not their racetrack. Tell them to go outside when they get rowdy, they can do no damage out there

6. Parents need reassurance that most bathrooms do not have a secretly hidden human escape doors and that the screaming, howling and whining parents carry on with is not what actually changes kids minds to exit through the very door from which they entered. Teach them patience.

So what to do with parents that are not domesticated? Simply start at step one by teaching parents the rules of parent behavior. Like kids, parents will test their limits and even one time is too many times for kids to give into the rules. Allowing a parent on the couch once implies always to a parent. And eventually the parent will have the comfortable loveseat while you enjoy the hard folding chair. Once the rules of domestic living parent behavior are mastered, you and your parent will begin to enjoy comfortable happiness living together.

That last sentence is what your shooting for right? Then this is perfect!!
12-30-2009, 01:59 PM
Ashley39

Uhmm.... Maybe if ur old enough to type, you shouldnt be sleeping with ur parents pieman.....
12-30-2009, 02:00 PM
Lord Ken Deathmarr

I'm having the same problem, too, Godg.
12-30-2009, 02:01 PM
Pieman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ashley39

Uhmm.... Maybe if ur old enough to type, you shouldnt be sleeping with ur parents pieman.....

Well you know Parents, they just keep coming back no matter how many times you kick them off the bed.
12-30-2009, 02:03 PM
Ashley39

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pieman

Well you know Parents, they just keep coming back no matter how many times you kick them off the bed.

Uhmmm...... one word... therapy
12-30-2009, 02:04 PM
Pieman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ashley39

Uhmmm...... one word... therapy

You know, good idea. I think im going to hire a trainer actually, my Parents are just too much for me to handle alone, and dont listen. Despite all the parenting books i buy, They don't talk about anything that helps.
12-30-2009, 02:05 PM
Lady Aylah

Headphones!!
12-30-2009, 02:16 PM
Godg

well guys im 17 year old almost turning 18 in feb, im happy there actually leaving one another and therefore im llucky im a calm thinker or i would had been dead a long time ago
my dad is those old" chinese dads always thinking about how manly they are and whatever he does or say is right, my mother has passed away when i was 12 and i've never been by her side throughout those 12 years that i regret, the thing is my dad's close to 50 and he just had another kid with a woman in china... my sis hates him and i being the calm guy is having issue not knowing what to do, it's life in a way
12-30-2009, 02:18 PM
Brooke ♥♥

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation...
I think the only thing you could do when your family is fighting is to try to resolve it somehow... But fighting is sometimes something uncontrollable in a family...Before my parents got divorced they would fight almost every night over just about anything they had the slightest disagreement on...So the best to do is try to ignore it and think of the good times your family has together...

If it is a worse case scenario then just verbal abuse I would suggest getting autohrity involved or just leave the situation, And there is also many types of counseling for things like this....

But as I stated try to think of the good times and let them shadow over the bad......
12-30-2009, 04:34 PM
Pieman

Who repped me for my parenting tips??? I need to know so i can give YOU rep!! Thanks ;D
12-30-2009, 04:45 PM
TheEclipse

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pieman

Who repped me for my parenting tips??? I need to know so i can give YOU rep!! Thanks ;D

oh i did! i thought it was funny
12-30-2009, 04:54 PM
Pieman

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheEclipse

oh i did! i thought it was funny

Cool, i repped you back xD. Thanks :D
12-30-2009, 05:11 PM
Ruyuk

Wow, so many problems, my family has never had them before... We are a religious family and to tell you the truth, most, no all of my friends form my religions' parents are married and they all live happily. But most of the parents from my friends families who are not religious, most are divorced, or always fight.. (This is my opinion, only my opinion. Plus, I am talking about old friends in the USA.)
12-30-2009, 10:00 PM
Brooke ♥♥

It is true that most u.s. couples are eventually divorced or fight alot....Just didnt think it would ever be my parents....:(