A cold world......

[Rodri]

I don't mean to be cruel or a mean bish but, I don't think respect should be expected,
Respect needs to be earned. I think what your talking about is more along the lines of being
kind and caring, and in society theres always going to be the non-genourous, non-carers,
but there is ALWAYS someone willing to help, and someone willing to give up their seat.

Sorry babe but I have to disagree with you.

You should treat everyone you meet with respect. It does not have to be earned as it should be the normal way you treat people.

That's the way I was brought up. So I say please and thank you to the server at the shop and the waiter who serves me and I give up my seat on a bus to the elderly person, injured person or pregnant woman.

Who are you that I should need to "earn" your respect? If anything, this type of attitude "earns" my disrespect.

[gottibabe1]

Sorry babe but I have to disagree with you.

You should treat everyone you meet with respect. It does not have to be earned as it should be the normal way you treat people.

That's the way I was brought up. So I say please and thank you to the server at the shop and the waiter who serves me and I give up my seat on a bus to the elderly person, injured person or pregnant woman.

Who are you that I should need to "earn" your respect? If anything, this type of attitude "earns" my disrespect.

But thats not respect, thats just having good manners.

[Rodri]

That is all having good manners is. It is simply showing other people some courtesy and respect and hoping they will do the same for you.
I am not asking total strangers to go out of their way to be nice to me, just to show me the same respect that they would expect me to show them. I am sure you would get upset if a total stranger was openly rude to you. Yet you still think that they need to earn your respect before you will show them any?

[gottibabe1]

well.... if he's rude to me why in the heck would I be nice to him?



sigh... clearly i opened pandoras box -_-

[Rota]

well.... if he's rude to me why in the heck would I be nice to him?

Kill them with kindness.

I was in retail management. If I was on duty and a really, really irate customer came to the front desk, I usually got the call. I can't tell you the number of people who were rude and angry and every other foul term you can think of. I would literally smother them with manners and courtesy, and by the end I usually ended up getting an apology out of them.

The rudest people need to be shown the most courtesy. Angry people are usually looking for a reason to get angrier. If you give them absolutely no cause, they settle down and become civil.

[TAY]

Respect shouldn't be earned, it should be an implicit part of any human interaction. Now, if you are dealing with a person who has proven themselves to you in the past as being a turkey, then factor that into your interaction accordingly. But interactions should start with respect. I teach high school, and I see a lot of kids who give no respect to any adult on campus, and hide behind the excuse of "respect has to be earned". But that's not reality. If I met your grandmother, I'd be respectful to her even if that was our first interaction.

This is true to a certain point...say u gave her some respect, this amount is limited due to our society now...the rest of ur respect can be given if she returns ur jesture of good favor, or u can recall ur respect if u get into a bad situation with her.....respect is a given in all relations of human contact, but it is not total. To respect totally, u must add the starting amount of respect to that which is earned.

[Rodri]

I wonder sometimes if the educators have implanted this concept of "respect has to be earned" into children? Surely parents are teaching their children to show respect to others? It's just that I hear that same phrase so often these days from younger people that it seems like it is being drummed into them somewhere.

[Rota]

I wonder sometimes if the educators have implanted this concept of "respect has to be earned" into children? Surely parents are teaching their children to show respect to others? It's just that I hear that same phrase so often these days from younger people that it seems like it is being drummed into them somewhere.

The "respect must be earned" attitude is just a bigoted idea. It comes from a thought process that others are less than you and must earn the right to be considered "on your level." Whatever the reason is you think they must earn your courtesy, it is a bad reason. Whether it's because they don't make as much money as you, or aren't as educated, or don't have similar economic parentage, no reason is justified. Bigotry is not just race/creed/sex discrimination, it can be as simple as "that person doesn't agree with me, so they can go die in a fire."

Treat everyone the way you want to be treated... like a human being.
Noone should have to jump through hoops just to be treated with courtesy and respect.

[Cosmic Fury]

You give respect to others period.

I work as the front-counter person in a fast-food resaurant, and trust me, if you slip, all will see it.

Respect has to be shown indiscriminantly to everyone, from the beggar to the President.

If both of them show up at the same time, treat them both like your own boss when he is considering giving you a raise.

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It's no different in your social life. Respect others, and at least they will listen to you. They will notice, sooner ot later. Perhaps you may be respected in turn, and so you have a reputation as you go dow the road.


Simple as that.

[gottibabe1]

I wasn't meaning it in the way that I'm not going to respect you if your nothing or like that, I guess what I was meaning was, I don't expect people to respect me. Yes of coarse I show respect to people, but don't automatically assume right off the bat I'm supposed to respect you. If you respect me, I'll most likely respect you. Unless of coarse you wierdly respect me, but are rude at the same time (i wonder how that would play out lol) then I'll prolly tell you to go shet in a hat.


Oddly enough I'm probably one of the sweetest people you'll ever meet (or so I was told)