Art of writing love letters has been lost

[Obsidia77]

Miss Kitti has a point, most kids first need to learn HOW to write first. Heck, I type my e-mails in letter form even to friends. Also, I have a tendancy to use complete sentences and as proper of punctuation and spelling as I can muster. (I still make a typo from time to time.) I get teased for it quite often when chatting online. It is a sad state of affairs indeed. I have written love letters myself, but the sentiment is almost always lost on the recipient. =\

[AbstractAngel]

Romance itself is become a lost art. Or maybe I'm jaded lol.

The most romantic thing anyone has ever done for me is cook me spaghetti once. As a "nerdy tomboy" guys forget I'm still a woman. They think because I can beat them at Halo or help fix their OS, that I don't need pampering.

I write the love letters, poems, love songs, take them out to fancy dinners, buy them flowers (actually no, I only did that once. He was creeped out. I got it cause it was his favourite colour of orange and it was only a single rose. He was scared and said it was girly, so I used an empty beer bottle as a "manly vase". He said that was better. I learned my lesson not to do it again! lol), cook romantic meals, messages, random "I thought of you" presents etc. I don't do it as much as I used to to be honest though.

I think people just give up after a while. I know I have. Those who are romantic aren't always appreciated like they used to be. So eventually they stop trying. It's almost seen as "whimpy" or "pathetic" to express your emotions for someone, which is simply not the case.

[Mistress Kitti]

Romance itself is become a lost art. Or maybe I'm jaded lol.

The most romantic thing anyone has ever done for me is cook me spaghetti once. As a "nerdy tomboy" guys forget I'm still a woman. They think because I can beat them at Halo or help fix their OS, that I don't need pampering.

I write the love letters, poems, love songs, take them out to fancy dinners, buy them flowers (actually no, I only did that once. He was creeped out. I got it cause it was his favourite colour of orange and it was only a single rose. He was scared and said it was girly, so I used an empty beer bottle as a "manly vase". He said that was better. I learned my lesson not to do it again! lol), cook romantic meals, messages, random "I thought of you" presents etc. I don't do it as much as I used to to be honest though.

I think people just give up after a while. I know I have. Those who are romantic aren't always appreciated like they used to be. So eventually they stop trying. It's almost seen as "whimpy" or "pathetic" to express your emotions for someone, which is simply not the case.

Well said! Same thing for me...just cuz I know how to fish/hunt/4x4/small repairs/etc, I guess its OBVIOUS I dont like the girlie-girl romantic stuff REALLY? So NOT the case!

Romance has faded away...only a few of us 'old schoolers' really know what that even MEANS lol lol cannot BELIEVE I just called myself OLD! PFFF I'ma toys r us KID...my story I'm stickin to it!

Eh hemm...back to topic. I think if our younger generations learned a thing or two 'bout romance...our societ/y/ies as a whole, would be a lot better place to live.

BTW Abstract? I buy my hubby of 17 yrs roses ALL the time. Whether he thinks its girlie-girl or NOT!!

And I do the same thing Obsidia (Letter format) Think that *habit* just comes from a proper grammer learning that has dissipated along with the whole romance thing *siiiigh*

[AbstractAngel]

BTW Abstract? I buy my hubby of 17 yrs roses ALL the time. Whether he thinks its girlie-girl or NOT!!

lol I miss that toys r us song! We used to deform the words as kids though... "I don't wanna grow up, I'm a toys r us kid, I took my daddy's chainsaw, and look what I did! *vruuuuum brum brum brum brum brummmm* Yes. We were sick kids. lol

But that is AWESOME Mistress Kitti! Glad to know somebody still does! I think it's the gesture that counts more than being "girly" or "whimpy" or whatever name you have to call it because you're bitter.

I'm sure he appreciates it every time you do, even if he tells the guys he bought them for you!

I write love letters myself, quite often, but over the years I learned that even in a long-term relationship, it's best to keep those letters tucked away and not send them to them. I'm sure this would be different if I dated women lmao. Men don't usually respond to well to love letters, they act as though they feel like I'm turning them into my little woman or something...

[Mistress Kitti]

LOL!! Oh, you're really killin me here!! I wanna rep+ ya so bad, it's not even FAIR! LUV tha ~new~ version of T~R~U Kids baaad kids!! lmao

*Yes, it WOULD be different if you were dating a female* *Raises eyes at tha guys who undoubtedly have SOMETHIN crankin in their minds if reading this*
Aaand ~No, men do not respond 'positively' to love letters~ In fact, most likely the case, any ONE of them are (1) holding back a yawn (2) uncontrollably yawning with a sheepish look on their face and mumbling 'oh...for ME...ohhh THANK YOU HONEY' (tell me I'm wrong here)

Makes me wanna go write a love letter *AGAIN* and try it out on my man tonight just to SEE either ONE of those reactions just so I can prove myself right

[Pieman]

Well, *Pretends he actually read the wall of text* That was definitely... an opinion.

[imnothere]

i think that i can safely say this now that i'm out of the relationship it happened in, but guys i kid you not i cried my self to sleep for a week when my sig other said "well were (committed relationship word) now, so i dont have to do all that stuff for you any more" i gave him the 'tell me you did NOT just say that' look and he gave me the 'what you didnt think i'd treat you like a princess forever did you??' look
i was kind enough to hide the fact that my heart was broken at the time. but guys take warning. i forgave but i didnt forget.
NEVER STOP ROMANCING YOUR SWEETHEART!!!!

[AbstractAngel]

The saddest part is that the most romantic guy ever in my life was and still is my brother. (NO NOT IN A SICK WAY)

He treats me like a queen, dances with me, compliments me, writes me "love you sis" letters, the works. And he's that way with his wife, too (obviously to a much larger degree). I've sadly never met anyone else who has ever wanted to do that stuff with/for me.

I heard a song he had written for his wife once and it literally made me cry. Because I will never have someone who loves me enough to do that aside from my own family, even if they do "love me". And because to me, he's the most amazing person in the world because of who he is and what he does, and deserves the adoration of everyone around him which, in a world like this, he'll never have.

Love letters/romance to a girl are never ever rejected if they feel the same way. It's just sad that people no longer want to risk the chance that expressing how they feel will be met with rejection at all.

[SunTzu123]

A text message can be a love letter.


...I will add on when I'm not...posting on about 3hours of sleep.

Text message is not the same. Like receiving a letter that is hand written or written in calligraphy. Text message can be nice i guess but its a normal everyday action writing a letter will mean much more

[Pieman]

Text message is not the same. Like receiving a letter that is hand written or written in calligraphy. Text message can be nice i guess but its a normal everyday action writing a letter will mean much more

In the time of Love Letters, writing a letter was a normal everyday action...

They both have the same thing. Words that express love. How you deliver them, is up to you.

Next you're going to try and bring back Chivalry...