Art of writing love letters has been lost

[AbstractAngel]

I dont send love letters. If you cant go to be with person and say your feelings to their face, then you dont love them.


/Sappy.

I believe you can do both. Saying it and taking the time to create a permanent reminder are two different expressions of love. But you're right, if they can't say it to your face and HAVE to write it, there's something wrong.

[Elana*]

*sigh*

One doesn't see any boy, who goes around, and send anonymous/known love letters...

It's a shame to say the least...all the guys in my grade, aren't romantic in the least...instead, they have childish behaviour, and cannot act like adults, which they are becoming. They are giving the poor teachers a living hell for the day..especially one of my class teachers..poor women...she's still a new one too!

I wish guys( no offense to these that read this) could just behave....better maybe, like gentlemen..and that ladies, don't go around looking for trouble.

If things were like that, my school days would be a hell of a lot better...

[Mistress Kitti]

Tis a sign of our times my dear...as indicated in my previous post. Very sad to see indeed!

[criplockin]

I believe you can do both. Saying it and taking the time to create a permanent reminder are two different expressions of love. But you're right, if they can't say it to your face and HAVE to write it, there's something wrong.

If you love them enough, and they love you, your words will be permanent.

[Rule #32 always stay on her mind.]

/logic

[AbstractAngel]

If you love them enough, and they love you, your words will be permanent.

[Rule #32 always stay on her mind.]

/logic

Yes but if you are willing to say it to them and make that permanent impression on them, but are too afraid that someone else will find out because you've written it, sung a song, or publicly displayed that affection, it's just another line

I actually know people who won't discuss things in writing and only in person because when you write it, you can't take it back. But spoken words can be twisted in the mind, misunderstood, etc. And you can more easily claim "I was just having a moment in time, that was it" then if you actually take the time to sit and write or create something for another person.

[criplockin]

*Snarls to self
"dang women always having to defeat me in debates."
*hairflip, walks off.

[AbstractAngel]

Not to sound combative or anything lol (geez we love to argue, eh?)

It's an opinion. You are right and so am I. We BOTH win because it's not fact, it's our belief! Yaaay FTW!

[Quantum Leap]

*slumps back into the conversation*

So! I apparently got stuck with my pizza and a ton of real life matters ... and so my post had been buried and I won't go back there to edit it.

That being said ... hmm ... guess it's time to air my piece, seeing as only a few guys "quipped" in to air theirs.

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I'll be speaking as a detached 3rd-party for most of this post.
WARNING: This might be a tl;dr post for you.

Females usually have a habit of being sentimental.
Hold it! Don't flame me so fast for that opening line.

I'm not generalizing all females. I was simply stating an observation based on countless hours of watching and being with them. (Hey, for starters, I have two sisters -- they're a handful!)

I'm not saying that being sentimental is a bad thing. It isn't. (I've received and sent letters myself and they're great, not at all sappy -- makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside.) It's just that some people view writing [love] letters the conventional way is outdated and more for the sentimentalist than for the worldly, modern person of today. Of course, there are also those who see this as a very romantic and sincere way of expressing your feelings to another person, and does not necessarily have anything to do with sentimentalism.

This cannot more clearly be seen than in the difference between a male and female's perspectives on the matter. For instance, a girl would remember a special date in their relationship; a guy would sometimes just shrug it off as "it's just a date -- what's the big fuss?" etc. Plus, guys tend to have this "macho image" that they try to live up to / stick with, and I guess some think sentimentality is, to them, what kryptonite does to Superman. Of course, females don't have this matter to struggle or work around with, since it's easy to be sentimental when you're a woman. It either comes naturally or you're entitled to it.

But going back to what the OP had so astutely pointed out, I agree that writing love letters the conventional way has been kicked out of fashion as this society of ours raced with all the innovations that technology had introduced. Because of the sudden advent of emails, instant messaging, and text messaging, I guess writing letters on real paper has taken a backseat. This isn't a surprise, though, since more and more people are being inducted into a fast-paced lifestyle which is the trend nowadays, and most of them reason that they simply do not have the time [nor the inclination] to write in longhand on paper. It takes more time than writing an email / IM'ing / texting, and some people just don't like writing in longhand. (And consider the paper you'd be wasting for numerous re-editing! Save the trees! -- Nature Hippies) Weigh that against the ease of just typing up a short but sweet message and technology wins the deal hands down [for most].

Ending notes (because this is getting too long):

I'm all for a bit of sentimentality. It never hurts to have a bit of romance in your life. I'll say YES to bringing back the custom of writing love messages on paper and going the extra mile/minute/effort to express yourself in longhand to your significant other. It's good when it's unexpected and all the sweeter when the other person responds with heartfelt appreciation.

However, this doesn't mean that letters sent by any other means of communication, be it the phone or internet, is bleak and insincere. What people should be more concerned about is the message itself and how it is relayed, regardless of whatever means the person used to send them to you.

Ultimately, it still depends on how the sender would express his/her message (for we are all different in more ways than one) ... and how the recipient would accept and appreciate the words and the way they were delivered.

If the words ring true to you, I don't see any problem in how it was expressed.

PS. Yes, good grammar and spelling comes a long long long way in being able to express more fully and more sincerely what you feel.

[Lazzzzzzzzalicious!]

To me everyone has a different way to express their feelings. Some people can do this through words, some through writing others just through their individual actions. It's never mattered to me HOW someone shows they love me as long as they do it and do it on a regular basis

Although getting love letters can be nice sometimes

[Brooke ♥♥]

*sigh*

One doesn't see any boy, who goes around, and send anonymous/known love letters...

It's a shame to say the least...all the guys in my grade, aren't romantic in the least...instead, they have childish behaviour, and cannot act like adults, which they are becoming. They are giving the poor teachers a living hell for the day..especially one of my class teachers..poor women...she's still a new one too!

I wish guys( no offense to these that read this) could just behave....better maybe, like gentlemen..and that ladies, don't go around looking for trouble.

If things were like that, my school days would be a hell of a lot better...

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