Linoge thats a brilliant idea about the messenger thing, whispering is annoying and your more or less talking to yourself if the other person isn't online.

My alliane is a mix really we have young teens and older teens, i'm 18 and others are 20 odd and 30 odd with kids lol
We all get on easily enough, but between the younger teens and oldest members there is an obvious barrier because their mind frames are so different.

Lol TNG and ST:V brilliant