One of my server's is a lord I made just to goof off. I've spent no money, and put little effort into promotions and medal farming. A player thought he would pick on a weak guy and sent a massive assault against my low prestige single city.
My compact defense defeated his onslaught, and I captured 5 heros in the process. He promptly sent me a mail apologizing and whining about losing his best attack hero. He told me to keep the other 4, but PLEASE return that uber hero. I replied to him that I did not have the rank to recruit the hero. Even if I had the rank, I did not have the justice medals it would require. In fact, I could not recruit ANY of the captured heros. I couldn't return them if I wanted to.
He learned a hard lesson about being a bully. I could have warned him what would happen if he had bothered to show the common courtesy to send a "port or die" or "join or die" ultimatum a day before the attack. I know I show that courtesy to players with my bigger lords. Everyone deserves the chance to avoid a total wipe.
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