broken hearts take the longest to heal of any broken part of the body. this is do to the emotional back log they create, and the poor blood supply they get.
only when one is willing to circulate ones emotions can the broken heart begin to heal. and for some, that takes eons longer then others. it is not a healing process any external force can speed up if the patient is unwilling to heal.

i'm sure no one noticed that there wasnt a single physical thing on my "list" nor anything about monetary security. and the only opinion i noted as having value was their own.
so how does my "list" fit into your equation?
prove me wrong and i'll buy you an icecream. fail to do so and i'll make you cookies.