Boley's Photo Casebook - All Relationship Problems Solved!

[Boleslav]

Why doesn't the girl I like understand me she never gets what I mean. And I am so good at explaining stuff /sarcasm

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Communication is surprisingly difficult under normal circumstances, and when you add extra filters such as, for example, "liking" someone, the chance for mutually understandable interaction goes down. Liking someone normally results in you placing stresses on your communication style which you wouldn't normally have, for example, perhaps you are trying to be wittier, or funnier, or more charming, but the strain tells and results in a more confusing interaction. This is why people recommend "just be yourself."

The fact that you have to explain shows you are working too hard. It is paradoxical, but when we like someone but are too afraid to say it directly, we try to hint at it by exaggerating other aspects of our communication - resulting in a less clear message. If you can do this successfully, it's called flirting. Most people can't pull it off. The solution to this Gordian Knot is of course to cut it. Just tell her you like her straight up, without all the flirting and try-hardisms - "just be yourself"