Quote Originally Posted by Ghost101 View Post
Here's a little funny story.

I'm profoundly deaf, as you all know by now. I became deaf at three years old, got a cochlear implant to help me hear when i was 4. I am now 17 years old.

Throughout my entire elementary school life, I had no friends, children were shallow back then, didn't want to associate with the weird kid. Middle school was the same way.

When i got to high school, I finally got some friends. I became friends with a lot of people and close friends with a smaller smarter group, nerds as you would call them.

But the girls all remember how they didn't want to talk with me in elementary and middle school, so all of them consider me just a friend, someone to talk with intellectually, to work with in groups, etc etc.

How do I explain to my parents and siblings that I don't have a girlfriend and probably never going to have a relationship with a girl in high school? Heck, all my life I thought I wasn't handsome enough for people to like, not smart enough, too funny to be taken seriously.

That doesn't mean I'm homosexual, asexual or narcissistic. I like girls, and I like one particular girl.

So I am in the same boat as you, problem is that i want a relationship, but never know if I am handsome enough to be attractive or if I am clever enough. I am not in one simply because of how people used to act and that no one ever showed interest in me.
Just to add to Boleslav's comment. I dated a guy in high school who felt this way. We ended up dating and it ended up ruining our relationship because he felt I was "too good" for him and he was always looking over his shoulder thinking someone else that was smarter/better looking would steal me a way. It ate him up inside and he never believed I really just wanted to be with him. Once you get past the elementary level (as you've observed) people mature and realize it doesn't mean anything in the grand scheme of things, and doesn't take away from the fact that you're a great guy.

Do yourself a favour and let things happen as they happen. If you're anything like me, you don't realize someone likes you until they are literally right in your face telling you. It comes hand in hand with thinking you aren't good enough. But I guarantee you are, especially if the way you act, reflect, etc on the forums is anything like how you are in real life.

So enjoy being a teenager, and if your parents seemed worried talk to them about it. As for yourself, nobody can tell you when/what is right when it comes to your own life choices, they can only offer opinions. But don't let you thinking you aren't "hot" or "smart" enough or whatever the case may be stop you because it is a safe bet someone you know thinks you are.