Well, I just wanted to know before posting a question...
Note: This is a very serious question, and a long one, too, but since I don't know any guidelines...
More than a year ago, I met a man on Evony. We became good friends, attached at the Evony hip as it will; we're a matched pair. I fell rather hard for him but was in denial for a while, because *sigh* I was still married (bad marriage, getting divorced now, would have divorced whether I met this other guy or not). The guy is... hard to read. It took a long time, but he admitted he felt feelings for me too... but the fact that I'm married is an obvious sticking point for him (moral reasons). He's my best friend, we talk about anything and everything, even the "excrutiating minutiae of everyday life." But, he insists that he cannot tell whether he loves me or not unless he meets me first. Unfortunately, we live 1200 miles apart. We've had to put it off for a long time because of waiting for my divorce and his work schedule (he only gets 3 days off a month right now). Now we're planning a May meeting--he's taking his week vacation off and paying for the whole trip of my flying to see him, entertainment, etc. But it's still very hard for me to wait; it's obvious I care more for him than he does for me, and it's unbearable to love without a return of feeling.
Is meeting absolutely necessary to know whether one loves another or not? Good idea or bad, meeting? Am I just being insane, flying across the country on hope?
If it helps, he is one of those strong-and-silent type guys who is older (early forties), never-married but had his heart broken a lot of times (only one years-long relationship) and isn't exactly a looker (so he's rather negative on his ability to attract women... I think he's cute).
Please don't laugh, I agonize over this every day.



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