I sympathize that such a thing would be a very sick thing to do... but honestly, you wouldn't believe the excuses I've seen people use to try and get me to stop attacking them. I don't believe any of them and if an alliance sent mine a message saying to not attack someone because they had a heart attack, first thing that would pop into my head would be that they're using it as an excuse because said person has lost his defenses somehow.
Sorry, cold as it may sound, they have no reason to believe what you said in a war. It would have been smarter to just not told anyone and they likely wouldn't have noticed.
You load sixteen tons, what do you get
Another day older and deeper in debt
Saint Peter don't you call me 'cause I can't go
I owe my soul to the company store
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