Rant acknowledged.

Yes, the bully mentality is foremost. That's why I never attack first, or I send a friendly little note: "Are you active? If not my attack will commence on..."

That is the point of the game, along with the interaction with hundreds of people around the world.

Oh, and I nearly forgot the fun of defying the attackers with taunting emails reminding them they can never beat you because they cannot take your last city.